I have the rare opportunity to explain how to deal with trauma as I am dealing with it myself. For me, I think one of the hardest things to go through is having people leave you behind without a word other than that it's your fault. When I was younger, a lot of my years were spent dealing with this situation over and over again. I would be moved around because I was considered a dangerous person. When you hear that every day when you are isolated and alone, it is hard not to feel that way.
That's in fact the key to dealing with someone leaving you behind. DO NOT ISOLATE YOURSELF! Some of my most wonderful memories were during times of absolute chaos and stress. Support is in fact the most important thing that you can do for yourself when you have been traumatized. I myself wanted to sit alone in the dark and cry for hours (which I did to be honest, and that's okay). But, then I picked myself up and started calling my support group. My support group consists of some of the most caring and decent people that I have come across in my 26 years of existence.
When you think about a support group, this doesn't mean every friend that you have. While those friends are valuable if you need a distraction, too many opinions can cloud your own processing journey. Everyone's is different, which is why picking supportive people means picking people who know you really well, who know how to deal with you when you're traumatized, and people who are good at listening without judgement. Some of my top people are actually professionals (which I feel so lucky for) and all of them have known me longer than 6 years. Family can be beneficial in times of stress, but only if they are healthy individuals themselves.
When you ask someone to help, you are asking for the help that they would give themselves. There is nothing wrong with friends that help and you feel somehow worse. It just means that right then the people you need to talk to are people who help in different ways. We all have our own values on what constitutes as helping. Some offer food and shelter, advice, a listening ear. Others can add to the anxiety of your own, which once again, there is nothing wrong with that. Sometimes when you are too vulnerable, being around any instability can be harmful to your journey.
If you feel like you do not have that support group, that is also okay. I have spent years of my life with maybe 3 people who knew me well enough to answer whenever I called. There is nothing wrong with also asking for professional help. In times of stress, it is often more important to go to a professional to get advice than anything because they know the healthy coping mechanisms that get you through times of trauma. If you can't afford a professional, join a support group. There are many groups out there that offer services for women who are alone and afraid.
Most importantly though, take care of yourself and ask for help if you can't. For example, my sister brought me bags of groceries without even telling me because she knew I had no toilet paper. That's the kind of decent people you need around.